Anonymous asked: I was bullied non-stop from the age of 4 until i was 14. I don't know how to get over it. I was called 'fat, ugly man' and sometimes it's all i can think about it. It makes it difficult to accept compliments or see the good in myself. I don't know what to do.
How old are you now?
You just need to remember that when bullies make mean comments they choose to pick on the areas in which you are different for someone else. This doesn’t mean that they are bad differences.
‘Fat’ is such an easy word to throw at someone but it has the most impact. Everyone has their own idea of what is ‘fat’ and what isn’t and each person has their own unique view on what is beautiful. Everybody is beautiful in their own unique and personal way.
What you choose to do with the experiance you have had is up to you, you can let it get to you and bring you down, which is what the bullies want, or you can let is drive you to succeed. Remember, ‘Success is the best revenge’ and ‘He that will not reflect is a ruined man’.
If you let the comments they made take over your life then you will never get out of that process and you will never succeed in proving the bullies wrong or standing up to them.
You are amazing, and beautiful in every possible way. Lead by example, show the bullied you do not care and that their words are meaningless. You CAN do this, after all, ‘Energy and persistence conquer all things’!
Olivia xo
Anonymous asked: I wonder if prison violence and school bullying have the same root cause, that being a feeling of severe disempowerment that magnifies the ordinary complexes of the individuals involved.
I guess that that would make sense, yeah.
Both school and prison work in similar ways to an extent, with the same hierarchy (both official and unofficial) etc. The kids at school that bully and manipulate pick on the most vulnerable students and it may be the same in prisons too.
In both prison and school the ‘subjects’ (pupils/prisoners) are being restrained and told what to do by an authority of which they cannot control. Both situations are compulsory and so the victim has no escape. However, this could also mean that the bullying and violence is because they are simple bored. There is nothing else to do so they end up causing trouble as a way to pass the time, and once they get into this routine and get well known as a ‘troublemaker’ they may feel peer-pressure to keep it up, and this is why the bullying continues.
Anonymous asked: I was in school one day and I had my belt loose, someone behind me decided it would be funny to pull my trousers down... I was commando that day. Now everyone calls me small dick mcgee ): What advice would you have for me to either stop the name calling or just to get away from it. It's hurting me bad and I don't know how much more i can take.
Hey Anon,
Ok first of all, I understand that this will be a hard subject to talk to somebody about, especially a teacher or parent. Saying that, the only way that I think this bullying will stop is if somebody intervenes. Now, I do not advise that yout tell your teacher so that they then proceed to ‘keep a student behind, talk to them and warn them for the future’, because this will only make matters worse. However, I do advice that you ask the teachers to keep an eye of for any name-calling (and if possible, your parents to mentions this also) so that the culprits can be caught there and then.
As for day to day life at school you need to try keep your head held high and not let them know they are getting to you. A reaction is exactly what they are looking for, if you laugh with them and shrug it off they will become bored and forget about it.
I know it will be incredibly difficult to approach the teacher, particularly being male, but it might be best just to say something like, ‘I understood the humour at first, but now it’s just waring off and it is starting to get to me.’ By addressing them in this way they are more likely to take it seriously.
If the bullying continues, you need to make sure your parents contact the school. Giving the names of the students so that they can be dealt with accordingly.
Let me know on any progress and you can always come to me to talk, if you want to go off Anon I can send messages privately!
Olivia xo
Anonymous asked: I'm literally in love with your blog and what you do to help people. One day, I would love to do something like this. I want to thank you for being there for people because I'm sure not many people do this but I really am thankful for these things that you do for people. I know what it's like to be bullied and cyberbullied, I went through both and I'm still slightly going through cyberbullying but to all of those kids out there, please talk to these people, please. I'm begging you, they'll help.
Thank you so much! This means a lot :)
PLEASE LISTEN TO THIS CLEVER ANON!
Anonymous asked: I get bullied in school by boys. its because i hang around with girls. what should i do?
Hello Anon,
I am assuming you are male? Also, I would like to ask what type of bullying?
I would suggest that you tell a teacher and your parents immediately. If you go to Priesthorpe School (where we are based) you may contact me directly and I can help contact a teacher and we can aim to sort out the problem.
If not, then I suggest that you make sure you have a tight network of friends to support you and that you do not retaliate or give the bullies any other reason to continue. That way, if the bullying does continue you will always have people there for you.
But please, please tell somebody otherwise it if difficult for anybody to help.
Olivia, Priesthorpe Envision Team
Anonymous asked: I'm a lesbian. I'm scared to come out at Priesthorpe, because people have told me they are not very accepting, are they? And do you think I should come out? I've been bullied in the past and this difference would just give people even more reasons to hate on me.
Hello Anon,
I have been at Priesthorpe since I was eleven and I myself am bisexual and when I came out in year nine (I am currently year 13) I was faced with tons of people making homophobic comments etc. However, as soon as it was mentioned to a teachers and homophobic bullying was put on the pupils record it soon stopped. If you would like to contact me privately so that I can contact a teacher about the current/previous bullying then you may do so via my personal tumblr (thewalls-kickin.tumblr.com). I’m always here if you need to talk or would like advice.
I would suggest that before you come out that you do so to your best friends and family first so that you know you have a group of people that love you supporting you incase the bullying does continue. (& remember, if you don’t go on Anon we can talk privately!)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R9wM-eHrtQQ
Olivia, Priesthorpe Envision Team
